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I’m Painfully Average. But Here Are 4 Reasons Why It Will Help Me Become A Better Writer.

Updated: Jan 27

What’s your unfair advantage?

Personally, I had trouble coming up with an answer when my partner asked me this the other day after I told him about my writing goals.

Now, the question wasn’t meant to be discouraging.

In fact, it was quite the opposite because he wanted me to explore and dig deeper to figure out what only I could uniquely offer readers with my writing.

So, here’s my answer.

First, what is the unfair advantage?

It’s “a condition, circumstance, or asset that puts you in a favourable business condition. It is unique to you and cannot be replicated, copied, or bought.”

For example:

Ali Abdaal’s unfair advantage was that he was a medical student at Cambridge University. And he made videos for people applying to study medicine there.

Miki Rai’s unfair advantage was that she was a registered nurse showing people what nursing was like from the inside.

Joma Tech’s unfair advantage was that he was a professional engineer talking about life in Silicon Valley and at big tech companies.

So, what’s my unfair advantage…?

I don’t have one. In fact, I think I’m painfully average.

You see… I:

  • Haven’t done anything terribly noteworthy. I graduated from university. And I’ve worked a bunch of different jobs since graduation.

  • Am not particularly skilled in anything, lol. I’m not an expert in design, code, video editing, SEO, email marketing, copywriting… you get the gist. I only know the basics. I know how to use Canva. I know how to use no-code tools like Notion. I know how to use CapCut.

  • Am not a great writer. I’m simply a girl who writes to clarify her thinking. Who writes to understand herself and the world. Who writes to create a little space for herself on the Internet to document her insights and journey in hopes that it adds joy and value to others.

So no, I don’t think I have a skill set at which people would consider me above average that makes me stand out from other writers.

And you know what?

I’m all right with that.

Because the fact that I know I’m average gives me the drive to work harder to make up for it by:

Staying humble.

Because I’m average, I know there’s something I can learn from everyone that’ll help improve my writing.

Learning from mistakes.

Because I’m average, I know I’ll make mistakes. But instead of letting my mistakes bog me down, I see them as learning opportunities for me to improve and grow as a writer.

Building a unique skillset.

Because I’m average, I don’t specialize in one area. Instead, I’ve tried a bunch of different careers, skills, and hobbies.

For example, I’ve been a:

  • Server

  • Customer service representative

  • Aesthetician

  • Teacher

  • Freelance copywriter

Nobody else (at least, rarely) has that special set of work experience.

In fact, nobody else will ever have my set of:

  • Thoughts

  • Interests

  • Skillset

  • Life experiences

  • Work experiences

And so, I can share my unique perspective with my readers.

Being willing to play the long game.

Because I’m average, I don’t have any expectations of “having an overnight success.”

I know it’ll take me a very long time to see even an ounce of success as a writer.

And I’m alright with that because I’m prepared to consistently write, learn, and iterate over and over again for a long period of time.

Wrapping Things Up

So you see… I don’t have an unfair advantage. I’m just average.

But perhaps, that IS my unfair advantage.

Because it helps me:

  • Stay humble

  • Learn from mistakes

  • Build a unique skillset

  • Play the long game


I’m curious. What’s your unfair advantage? I’d love to read about your thoughts.

Photo by Eli DeFaria on Unsplash

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